September 21, 2014

Keeping track of you. When "following" turns to Cyber Stalking.

According to wikipedia, there are many recognisable signs of cyber stalking.

  • False accusations, particularly relating to the victims own social media content.
  • Attempts to "gather information" on the victim, or "target"
  • Cyberstalkers may approach their victim's friends, family and work colleagues to obtain personal information
  • They are generally obsessive, extremely persuasive and hell-bent on finding out any information about their victim, no matter how small
  • Their irrational obsession is masked with "due diligence" or "concern for the welfare of another person" or "professional research"
  • Encouraging others to harass the victim. This can take the form of "help me to gather information" "ring this person and find out what you can on the victim or their involvements with others, or business dealings" If someone approaches you to do this on their behalf, beware, they are attempting to make you an accomplice to cyber stalking.
  • Cyber stalkers will insist they have been wronged in some way by their own victim.
  • Cyber stalkers accuse their victims of being the "true" stalker in any situation uncovered by authorities.
  • Cyber stalkers use all forms of social media to "monitor the thoughts and movements of their victim" often to justify baseless complaints about the victim.
  • Cyber stalking often includes "real time" stalking.
  • Cyber stalkers try to find any avenue to "meet their victim"
  • Cyber stalking can result in physical harm on the stalkers "victim or target"
  • Stalking and cyber stalking are both criminal offenses. 
  •  In Australia, the Stalking Amendment Act (1999) includes "the use of any form of technology to harass a target" as forms of "criminal stalking."

What do do if you are being cyber stalked.

  • Report it.
  • do research on cyber stalking
  • talk to the local police
  • do not approach stalkers
  • do not respond to cyber stalkers direct comments
  • compile evidence, not difficult given stalkers provide it for you
  • protect yourself
  • realise that cyber stalking can get get physical
  •  Many stalkers are sociopaths. You should not try to negotiate with a sociopath. Do not under any circumstances try to reason with your stalker, tempting as it may become .

Find resources and phone contacts that help with cyber stalking in your local area and make contact.



As always, I hope this article helps in some small way.
If you believe you have a cyber stalker, contact your local agencies and seek help.
Remember, don't suffer in silence, its what your stalker is counting on.










August 09, 2014

She moved fair, the girl with raven hair.

She moved fair

with grace

flair


Love bloomed

with joy

dare


Flowers in her hair

sing



Magnificent




Sunlight warms the air

beams glide

aware


One moment

exists

forever

together

and never

within

without


Was it ever?



 She grows beyond

unseen

happy

content.


Her smile

That smile

reveals all

and nothing.



She is

she is

SHE IS!




Perfect.






March 08, 2014

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When I was teaching, there was a skinny little girl who was clearly in trouble. In the midst of winter she would arrive, freezing with no jumper or anything warm. I gave her a jumper and track pants from lost and found. She returned them at the end of the day. I realised later, it was so she would not be beaten for some perceived slight on the part of her parents. So each morning, I would give her the items, and each afternoon she would return them. I was advised by senior staff not to "get involved" The parents were known to authorities. But I did feel some heartbroken joy in watching her eat the things I would put in the pockets.

I was a kindergarten teacher.

Untitled....



Of her heart she knew little
All around were so big
Each one she looked up to
Never did they think

Busy with their lives
They scolded and hit
She whimpered and cried
Never questioning it.

The bruises healed
Broken bones too
New battles erupted
It would be payback soon

Little girl grew
Learned the lay of the land
It’s open your mouth
Find the back of the hand

Taller now
But none the wiser
Was everyone alien?
Why did they despise her?

School was uncomfortable
Did they all know?
Could they see the scars?
Did the lost tooth show?


And what of the parents
Did they beat too?
Other children hugged theirs
What a strange thing to do.

February 22, 2014

The haunted soul no longer.



The haunted soul no longer

She held those

Who wanted to hold her



She listened intently

To what they told her



The world turned

Nothing was new



She grew



A new dawn

Was upon her



She shrugged off

Cunning claws



She found something

Not lost



Her voice



Credence no longer

For control



She shed it

That coiled skin



And everyone

With forked tongues



Her choice.


January 21, 2014

My first year on G+ blogger.

Twelve months have passed since I joined G+ and started my little blog. And what an extraordinary year it has been!
My thoughts turn to all of the wonderful people I have met during this time, and yes, that means You!
Some years more than others bring things into my life. The years I had my children are perfect examples of new love and life being welcomed. But then there are other types "bringing in"

Over the course of the last year, I began to bring my own truth into my life.
Each of us will pursue this in different ways, some of us are born running, and others take their 20's (and even 30's!) to figure out who and what they are and want in and from life.

Mind you, its been a bumpy road for some people around me. Some have been blatantly rude and extremely nasty with regard to my pursuit of "what makes me happy"
Quite frankly, it was an astonishing example of just how unhappy (and obnoxious!) they are in their own lives, rather than a true reflection of who I am and what I am doing.

You see, change really scares the hell out of some folks. 

September 12, 2013

Writer / Author / Scribe. What's your style?

I've had some great conversations with many author's in the G+ pond recently, about the tender topic of "what's your style"

"What do you think about when writing" "How did you develop those characters" and the list goes on. I've read an inordinate amount of information on this topic too. There is so much out there, so many perspectives.

Imagine how stunned I was to realise... I worried about none of it.

To be bluntly honest, when I'm writing I don't think about the constructs and methods of writing. I don't think about character development or any of the other stuff that authors are "supposed" to be concerned with.

EEEKKKKK!!!

I can hear it now from afar!!
Authors and writers running for the hills in fright of the unwashed heathen in their midst!!
Ok, so it's not as dramatic as that, but the statement begs an explanation.

What do I think about when writing?!


I think about Discovery.

Pure and simple. Like each of us on this planet, my characters are allowed the room to discover themselves, the relevance of their own history in relation to present situations. Further to this they are allowed the freedom of circumstance and of their own perception within that framework.

Sometimes that perception is a lie that makes the gouging cut of circumstance all the more painful. At other times it is the gentle and unswerving truth that allows the false perception to be dropped.

As the author I have the wonderful advantage of being able to see the unseen my characters are living, but somehow always know. 


Which brings me to the second thing I think about. Passion

July 15, 2013

Heartbroken


A short poem. Just cos. I am no poet, but I thought I would share this, as I enjoy the random factor :)



The day began as many had before
Sounds of laughter and a cheery home

This day was the changing one
When mood had shifted with dour tone

It was seen on the horizon and felt long before
and rolled ever closer to suck away the warmth

Grey replaced the sunny day
Glowers smothered smiles

Nothing to put a finger on
But it had been felt for a while

Words lose all reason
When the impasse starts

Often worse the silence
That kills a broken heart

Barren souls fell the war
Nought the same as before

The dusk approaches with sliver moon
No fond farewell, no see you soon

Stars stab as icy darts
Tears fall for those who part

Nothing speaks the hurt inside
When love withers and is left to die

When new day dawns
They move as ghosts

Hollow remnants
Of the former hosts

The mind is numb and the body moves
Yet see the eyes

They reveal the truth.


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Nominations Abound! My Shine on Award.

Here you have it folks, a fantastic nomination for the Shine On Award from +A Long
For those of you who don't know him (and I will say here and now, you should!) you can find his blog at
http://ajwrites57.blogspot.com.au

So, what's it all about? What are the rules?
Here they are...

THE RULES FOR ACCEPTING THE "SHINE ON" AWARD ARE:

1. Display the award logo on your blog.

2. Link back to the person who nominated you.

3. State 7 things about yourself

4. Nominate 15 other bloggers for this award and link to them.

5. Notify those bloggers of the nomination and the award requirements.
Here goes!
1 - done.
2 - done
3- Hmm 7 things about me...geez, what to write what to write?!
-I love to cook.
-I drink De-Caff tea and coffee (insert grimace here!!)
-I love music from the 60's and 70's
-I am insanely uptight about how I do my washing, certain things shall not be washed together. Yeah, its OCD haha.
-I enjoy a good flirt, but I don't enjoy if it goes too far or becomes something untoward.
-I have pretty feet ;)
-The greatest achievements of my life are my children.

4- Nominations.
Gosh, nominations are always tough. Here goes...









So there you have it folks, some stuff about me and some great nominees!!
(you may note I've only listed 10, but hey..I try my best ;)
I hope you all enjoy reading about my wonderful nominees and getting to know them too. Awards like this one are a great way to "Pay it Forward" and also, a great way to connect with like minds. Enjoy everyone :)
To all the nominees, enjoy your nomination, but don't feel obliged to participate if you don't want to...but it would be nice if you did!!





June 26, 2013

My Leibster Blog Award!

Well, it's that sort of day here!!
The wonderful +Seumas Gallacher has nominated me for the Liebster Blog Award. You can find his great blog at http://seumasgallacher.com/ or on twitter @seumasgallacher

So what's it all about??
Here are the rules of the nomination...

The rules for the Liebster Blog Award:
  1. List eleven random facts about yourself
  2. Nominate eleven other bloggers for the Liebster Award
  3. Notify these bloggers
  4. Ask eleven questions that the bloggers must answer upon accepting the Liebster Award
  5. Answer the eleven questions that you were asked when you were nominated
  6. Link back to the person who nominated you.
Eleven random facts about me...

1. I hate the smell of raw capsicum.
2. My fave band of all time is the Spencer Davis Group (like you didn't know!!)
3. Fave song of all time "Georgia"
4. When I'm sick, I clean. Obsessively. Weird right?! 
5. I once "bought" a car for $38.oo - the cost of a new battery to get it running. A mauve Gemini, and it was the best little car. Never missed a beat!! (I miss that car ;)
6. I can be technically challenged. Nothing further to add here...
7. I love puzzles, especially Binary and Sodoku.
8. Cryptic crosswords are another fave.
9. I am the only female farmer in my area. And proud of it!
10. I love the smell of rain after a warm summers day.
11. I'm an intensely private person...and shy (with bursts of boldness!!)

QUESTIONS FOR MY NOMINEES (via Seumas)
1. What was the funniest movie you have seen?
2.What’s your earliest memory?
3. What was your favourite school subject?
4. Have you EVER had a need to use algebra away from a school environment? (No, seriously!)
5. Do you understand modern art (or even know if it’s hanging the right way up?)
6. Most enjoyable book?
7. Ever spent money to buy something you really wanted, although you could hardly afford it at the time?
8. Apart from when you were a child, have you ever danced in the rain?
9. What country would you like to visit that you have not yet been to?
10. What makes you grumpy?
11. What’s your  ’Go To’ switch to make you feel better on a gray day?
ENJOY :)

My Answers

1. 50 first dates. I love that film. (and anything by Adam Sandler)
2. My earliest memory...Looking out over a large, lush green paddock with gum trees in the distance. Mum and Dad tell me I was about 6 or 7 months old. They sat me on a fence post (holding me of course) when they were looking at a new property, and they are still astonished I remember it.
3. Science. Of course!
4. ummm...NO!
5. For the most part, no. It's just not my cup of tea.
6. The book I love most is "The Rainbow" by DH. Lawrence, followed closely by "My Brilliant Career"
7. No, I'm far too practical for that. If I realllly have to have it, I pay it off.
8. With my kids, yes.
9. India. (and Japan, South America and the list goes on!!)
10. Bad manners.
11. A good cup of tea :)

My Blogger Nominees!

M.C O'Neill (who I wish would join G+ sometime soon!! Hint, hint Mark ;)
 http://royalmanaball.wordpress.com/

+Michelle B
http://www.whatisthatbookabout.com/

+Vashti Q-Vega
 http://vashtiqvega.wordpress.com/

+Author's Thought - SLS Oborowsky
http://soborowsky.wordpress.com/

+M.G. Edwards
http://worldadventurers.wordpress.com/

@SophiaRecipes  Sophia Martin
 http://sophiamartin-recipes.blogspot.com.au/

Amanda @chewtowntweet
http://www.chewtown.com/ 

+Radhika Subramanian
http://www.ticklingpalates.com/

+A Long
 http://ajwrites57.blogspot.com.au/

+Glendon Perkins
http://www.glendonperkins.com/

+Bhawana Bhowmik
 http://nodesoflife.blogspot.com.au/


 Enjoy everyone. I look forward to finding out 11 random facts about you, and your answers to the questions!!
You don't need to participate in the nomination, but it would be nice if you did :):):):)







June 19, 2013

Writing by hand. Modern day fetish?

Yesterday I read a wonderful article by +John Birmingham, (read it here)
+Ferg Hyde was kind enough to point me in its direction, and I can't thank him enough because it really got me thinking. Most writers today are hitting the keyboard with all the love they've got, but once upon a time all writers completed their manuscripts by hand.

Is writing by hand becoming a modern day fetish?!
What is the benefit of keeping a journal/notebook/scratchpad?
I think there are many!

Firstly, if like me you are a fetishist of stationery, you will be able to pick up your trusty pen and release the inner artist! Writing by hand is far, far more intimate, in thought and in deed. It is an entirely different experience to sitting in front of a screen and tapping away. Personally, I find writing by hand allows me to tap into areas of thought and emotion I just can't muster when typing. There is a natural closeness, a personal and familiar feeling that is evoked. It allows for the transfer of one's innermost desires, private thoughts and feelings directly to the page.

One of the most wonderful aspects of writing by hand is the vulnerability of it. It is an intimate act, between your mind and the paper, the pen being the conduit of your expression. (The verb "intimate" means to state or make known) As you are writing on paper, you do not have the option of backspace or delete! The vulnerability comes from choosing your words carefully, pausing to find the precise, detailed, physical representation of your thoughts.There is far more pressure applied to the writer when a pen is in hand!

June 05, 2013

Writing a book? What should you be doing to promote yourself?

Congratulations! You are part of an exciting club, the writers club!!
So you are in the process of writing or have just written a book. What now?
What is the difference between promoting yourself and marketing a book?
The difference is huge.

Once you've been published, these things can seem like a million years ago...the time BP!
I think one of the greatest things a writer can do, is share the simple stuff from the beginning of the journey, and take the time to look out for new authors by sharing knowledge that can seem so second nature, it's no longer even a conscious thought. If you have any thoughts or tips, do leave a comment and share!!

So, now to it!
Before your book is even finished, YOU should be considering your options for promotion. Not of the WIP, but of yourself as a new writer on the block. This should always be done before you get to the marketing stage, and can take many forms. You will need to decide what works best for you.
Some of the options include:

Twitter.
A good place to start. But be aware you are limited with how much you can say here, 140 characters is all you get! Interaction depends on who you follow and who decides to follow you, as with most social media. Use hash-tags to get your posts in with other relevant material.
Hash-tags that may prove useful are
#author
#amwriting
#novel
#indie
#writer
#romance
#horror
#scifi
and the list goes on.

Facebook.
Another avenue of social media you can pursue to promote yourself. This may entail a personal listing or a page that you create to get your name out there and to share some info about your upcoming release. You can connect with other authors and writers and join a vast array of groups here too.You can find a great many wonderful people to connect with here and learn from. Participation on any social media is key. Ask questions and listen to the answers.

Google Plus.
Well, not that I'm biased, but this is the best place to be so far as connecting with others goes. I simply love G+ and it's wide range of communities and people. The best part, you will be able to find a great many who will talk with you and you can learn a great deal. Hash tags are extremely useful here too.

Other social factors.
You can find a wide range of Forums in your chosen genre to pursue. Just do a simple search to find some you may be interested in.
Goodreads is another worth looking at. You friend like on facebook and can pick up a whole host of good tips here too, as well as some goodreads :) There are so many avenues to pursue. Tumblr, Pinterest, Linkedin to name a few. You need to find what you are comfortable with, and decide how much time you are able to dedicate to it.

So, here comes the really big and important one for new writers.

The Blog.

Every new writer should have a blog, in my humble opinion. Some will argue that blogging takes away precious writing time, but I must disagree with this. I believe blogging offers a fantastic outlet to write something other than your WIP. It allows you to practice the craft in a very safe environment and even get some very valuable feedback too. If you are using blogger, I do recommend using the newly launched comments for blogs. I've found it very useful.
Do take a look at my post "Blogging is like taking a lover" for more on this topic.
Your choice of where to list your blog will depend on what you find works for you. There are a few options, blogger, wordpress, goodreads and the list goes on and on.
A blog will allow you to explore the wonderful world of writing and writers, connecting with many other like minds. You may choose to follow other blogs and others may even choose to follow yours. You may even be lucky enough to find a mentor of sorts who will puff a little breeze under your wings by promoting your blog and getting the word out there. It is all a part of the pre-launch sequence leading up to the actual marketing of your book.

Another area to think about is the humble Competition!!
I've entered a few over the years, way before I even considered taking up writing as big part of my life. It was a rewarding expedition into the world of writing and composing poetry pieces. For my part, I haven't won any, but I did get a few placings and notable mentions. Being rewarded in this manner can be quite uplifting, but by the same token, even if you don't win or get a place, remember:  By looking at those who did win, you can glean some insight into what the judges were looking for, as well as what makes a winning piece.

All of these options are ones you can take up online, but don't forget places like your local library. You might find that they host days/evenings for writers. Writers clubs can be found everywhere, find one in your local area and check it out. Keep an eye out for organisations that hold courses or seminars (both free and ticketed) on writing, they may include successful authors as guests! Pick their brains!!

Marketing your book will entail a great deal more than the social media listed here, and again it depends on how you are publishing too as to how you will handle this area. But that is the topic of another post I think!
For now, in the WIP stage, take the time to enjoy the social aspect of promoting yourself. Get to know the other faces out there and read, read, read! Sometimes, it's easy to forget that when you are writing!
Don't be in a rush to get there, let things unfold naturally and delight in the process.

Whatever avenue you choose to take, be sure to have a firm idea in mind regarding how much time and effort you are willing and able to put in. Don't run yourself ragged trying to keep up with others who are further down the writing path than you. Learn from it, enjoy it, and be content with where you are on your own journey. When you are there, remember to pay it forward, share what you have learned with others. They will be grateful for it :)

If you are looking for more tech type tips for authors, apps, tools and addons, search the label author techtips on this site.

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June 03, 2013

What should new writers blog about?

I write about all sorts of things on my blog. Ranging from tech tips to help other authors (view here) to my experiences here on the farm.(view here) But the quintessential question on the lips of many new bloggers and writers is:
What do I blog about?

Like so many of us, I'm still trying to figure that out! However, for new writers and bloggers, a good place to start is the journey of writing.
On that note, here is part of my journey so far.

I had never thought to be a writer. Sure, everyone says they have a book in their heart that is dying to get out, but how many actually sit down and write it? Fewer than some might expect. If you read my previous post "The secret society of Writers" you will know some of my motivations with writing, but here are some of the more intimate details.

When I sat down for the first time at my little laptop, opened the page and looked at it, I must admit, it was with trepidation! What is the first line?! I'd had the idea for the novel kicking around in my mind for ages, probably about a year before the overwhelming urge to write it down became too much for me to handle. Bear in mine, I'd had a stellar career in my field and then swapped it for farming. Writing was about as foreign as Mars at that point!!

Well, needless to say, the first line was written and about a million more after that. But how does anyone know if what they have is any good or just the ramblings of a writer wannabe? I looked at my finished manuscript with pride to begin with, then something else set in. Panic and fear! What the heck do I do with it now?! The next part of my journey involved seeking some assistance. I joined the social media game and began to pick the brains of those who had been published, traditional and Indie. And it was absolutely the right thing to do. So what next?

For me, a good place to start was an assessment service. Here in Australia, there are several of these services available. You are able to send away your brand new manuscript, edited or raw, to be read and assessed by published authors and literary agents.(in confidence I might add)  I took a long time to reach this step. I loved my novel, but I felt a sense of fear in taking this step. Truth be told I was terrified of anyone actually reading it!!

Taking a step further, before I sent if off for assessment, I began to enlist the aide of "alpha readers"
These are people who will read your unedited, first draft manuscript. It is a brave move to give someone the unedited version, but well worth the while. It helps sort any issues with flow and plot and character development. Then you get the glorious job of editing out all of that!! Fun :)

Once you feel satisfied you have edited all the issues, send it to an assessment service, or if you don't want to pursue that avenue, I would heartily recommend sending it to be professionally edited.
Yes, I know you've just gone through the whole "but I just did edit the thing!!"
But it is vital, in my humble opinion, to have your work eyeballed by a professional. He/she will spot things a newbie writer may simply be unaware of. In the end it will bring out the true beauty of your manuscript.
I am still in the process of editing, and I'm very grateful to have the assistance of professionals with this part of it. Certainly though, there is a great deal of to'ing and fro'ing, but I think the end result will be worth it. A least I hope so!

One of the things I have enjoyed a great deal, is reading other author blogs. It is a great place to start when you are new to the game. Having said that, I'm not personally at the stage of doing interviews or blog hops yet, but it's all part of the process when you are further down the track and actually have your novel out there for people to read! I'm not in any hurry to get there either. For now, I am content to let the story unfold, as we all should be when in the "baby writer" stage :)









May 31, 2013

Blogging is like taking a lover.

Blogging is like taking a lover...Sounds brash right?
Well not really, assuming you were single to start with ;) Ok, just go with me on this one!

Seriously though, as a newbie blogger I had little idea of what it entailed, or the upkeep involved. Like your lover, there is some upkeep to it, and some can be high maintenance!

There is a whole host of things involved.
Firstly, you need to put yourself out there. Not always easy for the shyer types. So you get your best clothes, or rather pieces, and put them on. Ta-da! You're now officially listed as a lover, I mean blogger.
Then, there is the hangout at the club, bar or venue of your choice...wordpress, blogger or website, all in the hopes of catching the eye of someone who may be interested in what you are all about.

Woo-Hoo! You're in the dating game! The pond is big isn't it? There are loads of others out there with the same thing in mind. It all starts to feel a bit overwhelming. What next?
Do you take a step back and become a wallflower, or do you become the cheap and easy type, hocking your stuff all over the place? Eek! Start biting your nails!!

The best advice is to just be yourself. Write about what you enjoy, and try to have a sense of humour about it. Lord knows we writers need to develop a thick skin. You write it and it will be criticised. Don't take it personally when you are not someones "type" Just smile and move on.

Assuming you do that, be yourself that is, you will begin to relax into the blogging thing. People will be able to get a really good feel for who you are. It may make you feel more adventurous too.

So, now you are actively seeking a more intimate relationship. What does that mean next?
It means you start to engage with your potential lovers. Talk to them! Most importantly, listen to them too.
If you are blogging, take the time to discuss and answer what people are saying to you - on and about your posts. Relationships take work, don't be afraid to step up when you begin to get some attention!

I have read posts out there that suggest you leave links to your blog all over other peoples blogs.
Personally I find this idea, not only annoying, but potentially lethal to your blog. You could find yourself blocked or banned by a great number of people.

What I do suggest is:
Join communities of like minded people and make some friends.
Talk to other authors.
Ask them questions and seek advice if you need it. Interview them if that's one of your strengths.
Be a matchmaker! Take the time to connect other people if you can. They will thank you for it.
Blog you little heart out and enjoy it.
Be yourself, don't try to be anyone else. It wont work.
When people enjoy your posts, engage with them.
When people hate your posts, learn from it.
Don't get obsessed with how many followers you have on your blog, be happy that you are at the threshold.


But most of all, enjoy the love affair you are now having with your readers .
Be an attentive lover, they will let you know what they enjoy. All you really have to do is keep delivering it!





Painting by Leonid Afremov - Sea of Feelings


May 24, 2013

Stop writing? Are you mad?!

Every writer who has experienced the dreaded "writers block" will know : sometimes you need to put the pen down! But it's not all about writers block. There are a few reasons why a writer should not write.

At times, the story we are penning just doesn't want to be told right then and there. I don't call this writers block. For me this time is precious. It is allowing the plot, the characters and the development of the overall tone of the novel to mature in my brain as well as my heart.
You see, I love my characters! Getting to know them is important, and it can't be done in a short period of time. Getting to know a new person should always be given the due time he/she deserves. Otherwise they are simple and two dimensional veneers of what should be a well rounded and interesting character. 

Now before you get all in a fuss about putting the proverbial pen down; I'm not suggesting that you abandon your writing. Far from it. It's just that life happens, and we as writers should be able to acknowledge that!
There are in my opinion, only two reasons why writers need a time out from a novel they are writing.

As I've mentioned in my post The secret society of writers many of us have a regular day job. Until we are able to become a writer full time, this is a very valid reason for leaving the next chapter to the next day.

Another good reason, is to leave the story alone!
Let it be to take on the life it wants to have. By that, I want to use image of opening a fine bottle of wine. If you don't let it breathe, it wont be as good. Give your story the time to breathe! Let the full complexities of it's nature come out by allowing it the time to do so!

The second reason is simple. You've been bit by the bug!
Another great story line has made the front page news in your mind, and it wont let you go until its been given due time on paper. 

Obviously, illness and other imperative needs that must be met in the course of day to day life aside; I can't think of any other reasons why a writer would or should put the pen down!

Having said that; if I was a romance writer...I could think of a few more interesting excuses!!

What are your thoughts?

 


















May 15, 2013

Sometimes, YOU are the thin blue line...

Social media is fantastic isn't it! A great way to connect with people. Sometimes it can be so much more too.
For some, it can be a lifeline in rough seas.

Usually I write about writing, this is not about that. So look away now if you don't want to hear some tough stuff!

Today I read something that really concerned me - a public post.
The person who wrote it is experiencing a very testing time in their life.
That person bade farewell to everyone.
I read it again.
My heart stopped.

Maybe there is more behind that goodbye.

maybe

Probably it is nothing more than what was intended, and I worry too much. I don't know the person who wrote it and I don't want to get too serious here. But....Anyone who has lost a person to suicide looks back and wonders...

 could I have said or done anything to change their mind?

Each of us, as we post our funny pics and humourous tales of fun in the city should remember there is a  person behind the icon.

 Sometimes we are the thin blue line, the last hope, the last reach that someone takes before floating off into the blackness

You never know what could be going on behind the seemingly innocent post of farewell to everyone.

As I write this, I am filled with concern, enough to have left a message on that post...not to give up hope. I encourage everyone to reach out when you get that nagging feeling in the back of your mind that something is not right. Even if you don't know the person involved.

So in that theme I am going to share something I never talk about, but today I am. It seems the best way to make my point...

My son is the bravest person I know. This afternoon we were at the hospital, again. You see, he has been unwell and today we got slammed. You don't need to know the details except to say, today;
I'm putting on my brave face, as is he, my brilliant little guy.

What he has is rare. I think just about all the doctors there came to see him today, and he had them smiling and laughing! He is the best! Tonight he is home, and safely in my bed, where I can hold him close and know he is safe. Hopefully he know it too.

So, the rambling of a worried Mother say this: We've all seen the ad's on TV - Awareness is key.

Look out for the signs, even online.
The person who makes the gesture of farewell to everyone, may just mean it.
Take the time to read more than just the lines in a post.

Listen too.

You could be the one person who makes the difference.



Update!! NB: thank you to everyone who has offered support for me and my son. I appreciate it greatly. Although this is a very difficult time, please know that I have only included this information as an Illustration of the point, please don't take it as the point.







Remember: There is always someone who can help. Don't be afraid to ask for it if you need it.

May 05, 2013

Sunshine Blogger Award!

A few days ago, +Glendon Perkins Nominated my blog for the Sunshine Award. To say I am thrilled with the nomination is an understatement! To top it off, another wonderful author +A Long nominated my blog too! What a week! Thanks guys, it mean a great deal to me.

So, what's it all about?

Like all awards there are rules to follow and here they are:

-Post the Sunshine Award logo.
-Nominate ten fellow bloggers you feel are worthy of this award. Announce their nomination.

Plus, link a pingback to the nominator’s blog.

So, without further ado, here 'tis !

You can find Glendon at www.glendonperkins.com

You can find Mr Long at http://ajwrites57.blogspot.com/

I thoroughly recommend you take a look at both, they are fabulous writers, if you haven't circled them already, hop to it!

Here's the rest:

Favorite color? Red. Followed closely by lavender.

Favorite animal? What? Just one! Mm. I've always loved the Cheetah, but Meercats are a quirky little creature.

Favorite number? I don't really have a favourite number, but the number 2 crops up in my life repeatedly.

Favorite nonalcoholic drink? Cranberry juice, and water. LL&B.

Favorite alcoholic drink? So is this where I reveal my tendencies? I loathe beer. So don't even go there. For a while it was a Brandy Alexander, then a Margarita- strawberry.
Champagne - Veuve Clicquot. Don't even try to give me anything else!!
Recently, none of the above, I'm a Mother!

Facebook or Twitter? Seriously?! Is this a trick question?! G+ hands down.
There are real live human people on G+, and sometimes they even talk to you!!

My Passions? Good food. I am passionate about chemical free home grown food as much as possible. And making meals at home, including baby food! Everyone should have a small garden where they grow something they can eat. Even if it's just a window box with herbs in it! And Chooks, get your eggs fresh people! I'm also passionate about responsible farming. As a small farmer, I use zero chemicals- yes, zero. Animals should eat what they would naturally, and they should be treated humanely. That is - not stuck in cages, and not dispatched badly. Give them a good life, and be thankful when they are providing for you on your dinner plate. For the record, I'm not against GM foods, but I hate with a passion the corporations that are ravaging the land and changing the nature of food- in a bad way.
I should probably add that writing is a passion?!


Giving or Receiving Gifts? I love giving a gift and knowing that it really means something to the other person. That's a delight beyond words. I also love receiving gifts that are unexpected, and ones that show the giver really knows me.

Nominees!

+Glendon Perkins  (link above)

+A Long (link above)

3? who was number 3? Cant remember...! 

+Adrianna Joleigh newly discovered for me - get to know her! http://adriannajoleigh.com/

+Jasveena Prabhagaran again, newly discovered for me - get to know her! http://thoughtsandviewsthatmatter.blogspot.com/ 

+Kae C http://www.kaios.com/

+J. Michael Schmidt  http://thevanguardnovel.blogspot.com.au/

+Timothy Hurley Because he's my kind of lunatic!   http://thelunaticassylum.blogspot.com.au/

9? I forgot, sorry...

Bloggers I would like to encourage!

+Aswin Madhu College goer, exam sitter and blogger!   http://www.aswinscorner.blogspot.com/  

There you have it! The sunshine award! Another big thanks the Glendon and AJ, you guys are the best, and best of all, I am learning a great deal from both of you.
Nominees, enjoy the nomination, but don't feel obligated to participate if you don't want to :)

For other people who have made my G+ experience a very rewarding and positive one, (but don't have blogs) check the hashtag #katherinevucicevicsharedcircle

Of particular note is the "top 45" circle.

As always, leave a + and a comment! 

 








April 20, 2013

The secret society of Writers!

All too often, the first time a person sits down to write they feel a sense of 'taking away' from others. But, it's important to remember who we are writing for.
First and foremost, authors are writing for themselves.

As first time writers, most have regular jobs to take care of, and often a family as well. The game of writing becomes one of cat and mouse, keeping up appearances in the day job to pay the bills and sneaking the time to write whenever possible! It's much akin to keeping a foot on two paths, and being stretched in two different directions. One, the path that is our public life, and the other the secret path of writing!
As we put pen to paper or tread the keyboard, we become part of the secret society of writers. We find inspiration and insights everywhere!

In my travels I have worn many hats, I've worked in oncology and seen first hand the struggle for life itself. A cruel foe to fight. One fellow I met was a journalist. He is well known in journalistic circles, and to readers and viewers as well; he passed away not that long ago. He was driven, absolutely and completely driven, to tell the world about his story. Not the one of his battle with cancer, but the devastating effects of Chernobyl. It was his passion. He felt an obligation to the people of the entire planet to report and keep in their minds  the horrible outcomes of nuclear disaster.
The irony of being in an oncology dept was not lost on him, we had two linear accelerators and often had nuclear material in the department, but in this case it was to treat, not destroy. The fact of the matter was, even we were partaking in the business of nuclear production. He was not against it, but genuinely questioned the safety of any nuclear plant, be it for medical reasons, energy, or more sinister ones such as producing weapons. In the end, he risked his own life to return to Chernobyl. Some may say he was crazy, others who understand the passion of a cause will know why he had to.
He was an interesting and passionate man, I enjoyed the brief time I was able to spend in his company. I learned a great deal from him.

The thing that struck me the most, is how people are motivated by a cause. Often the cause is one that is only for personal gain. I want a pay rise, better house, new car or to flog a novel. But there are the rare few who will take up a cause that is for the betterment of society, its awareness, and to bring a story to the attention of the general public that may have been swept under the carpet otherwise.

Being a writer is not unlike this. We, as authors, are driven by a cause.
For some it may be as simplistic as 'I want to make money out of this'. For others (like me) the story wont leave them alone until it is down on paper. It is a passion, a need, an undying love that must be consummated by the act of penning it!

Whatever our regular job or public working life may entail, the dream of becoming an author is one that we truly live for. For the most part, I am not in it for the money; I have a day job. But having said that...it would be nice too!

Most people who are driven to write do so because the enjoy it, and have the need to write.We squirrel ourselves away in our writing cave and let loose the story inside us. Make no mistake; it is utterly addictive!
People who do not have that need can never truly understand what that feeling is like.

So enjoy being a member of the secret society of writers. You are one of the rare few who have something to contribute. Don't lose heart at the sheer numbers of authors out there and books available. Take heart in knowing that there are others too who share your cause and passion! Get to know your fellow author. The exchange of ideas and the understanding of the instinctive drive we share is just as inspiring as the act of writing itself.

So, whether you are writing as a hobby that you enjoy and it offers release and relaxation, or you are an Indie author who has released your inner novel to the world, or even a multi-published well known author, I think the same is true for all of us....

Write your story. Be true to your cause. It is unique.

Do remember though, a cause is great - but an obsession to the exclusion of all else can be dangerous!

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April 18, 2013

Authors and Writers.

It is an age old question; what drives a person to write?

For me, the long history of writing began in caves when our ancestors began to scrawl on the walls.
There was a primal desire to communicate to others what is in our minds.
Cave art as a form of written communication is one of the cornerstones of the complicated multitudes of the written form today.
Cave dwellers depicted what was relevant to them at the time. Those of us that have been privileged to see first hand the incredible beauty of those works in situ, will most certainly attest to the fact that the message imbued on the rocks still speaks to us today, even after many thousands of years. There is something poignant and quintessentially human in those messages. Even after all this time and evolution, they are able to convey the message intended. This is what has meaning to us. This is the world as we see it.

The fact that even thousands of years ago, people were seeking out ways to pass on first hand knowledge to others in a manner other than verbal, should give a clue to another reason as to why people write.

I believe there is another primal desire to be found in the written word. The basic desire to leave behind a part of ourselves, a message, to others. After we are dead and buried, how does the life long experience of a person remain? Before the written word it was a part of the daily ritual of many peoples to tell stories. The shaman, the witch doctor, the story teller are all examples of this in action. The stories of the people themselves and the information that will ensure their continuation, was passed down to the younger generations.

With the evolution of the written word, the ease of passing down such relevant information was transformed. As humanity mechanised and changed socially, from cave, to farm, to city; the reasons for writing changed too. It was no longer used exclusively for passing on the accumulated knowledge of a people, or to record significant events, no. Humanity began to do a bit of navel gazing!

What I mean by that is, humanity as a species was able to use the written word to commence the inspiring art of social commentary. We began to question who we were and why. Exciting times.
As we moved into more recent centuries, people like Chaucer and Shakespeare offered up incredibly exciting and sometimes thinly veiled commentary on the issues and leaders of the time. They investigated the fabric of social structure and the contradictions to be found there.

Even things like the humble nursery rhyme, perhaps controversial at the time, offer an insight into the use of the written word as social commentary. Some may not know that simple nursery rhymes like 'Rock a bye baby, on the tree top' was in fact a poke at the royal family of the day. It was speculated by some that the royal offspring was in fact not fathered by the King. The lines 'when the bough breaks the cradle will fall' is a direct statement on the family tree of the royal family, and the fact that the offspring would fall when the secret was revealed.

More recently than that we have had books like 1984, and any and all of Asimov, Heinlein, the Bronte sisters, DH Lawrence and a litany of others too, who have something to say about the world around them and the social constructs thereof. 

Today, we enjoy a vast extension of those early days of navel gazing.
No longer are our social comments hidden behind thinly veiled sing-songs, amusing or entertaining plays and poems, or even bolder comments on society such as George Orwell. Today we are flooded with news articles and social media opinions, much of which makes no effort whatsoever to pull the punch when spreading the word!

What that has offered us, in this century, more than any that has come before, is the freedom to put pen to paper, say something without fear of repercussions, and to write for the love of it.
Writing in the 21st Century is a brave new world. Anyone who has something to say can send it out to the world in the form of any number of social media options....such as blogging!
There are dangers to be found in this, as Gay Talese (author of A Writers Life) so eloquently put it.
We are at risk of "Googling our way through life"
But that is a topic of another blog post I think! Back to writing....

My journey into writing began long ago, with a love of reading.
Further to that, it was a conversation I had years ago with my beautiful Grandmother, who is being awarded the Order of Australia Medal next month for her tireless work improving the rights of women and men in the workplace, over many, many decades. Story telling is still a big part of how our species passes down life experience!
I had just given birth to twins, my first children and a bit of a surprise to say the least! My grandmother was telling me about her experiences as a new mother, and what it was like in the war days with rations and so forth and most of the men off shore fighting a war a world away. We compared the differences in technology; a copper versus a washing machine, a wood-fired stove versus a standard electric/gas stove and oven.
But more than that, we discussed the social changes that came after the war too.
She imparted a simple recollection of what it was like in those war days when the post man was due to arrive.
Sounds simple doesn't it?
Not really.
You see the women who remained behind whilst their men fought the war were terrified of the post man.
Why?
Because he was the one who delivered that letter. The one informing them that their husband/brother/father was dead. Many went through it again with their sons in Vietnam and shamefully for humanity, many other wars too.
She recalled how the women on the street would band together so as not to be alone when the dreaded letter arrived. Offering comfort and true understanding amidst the desperation of grief. It must be remembered that in those days there was no "social welfare" that cared for women who lost the sole income earner in the family. That letter meant not just the loss of a husband and father, but often a loss of the family home and worse.

Further to this deeply personal experience, she shared with me how she misses an artful and interesting letter from a friend. People still wrote to each other in those days, she sighed. An email can hardly compare to the personal touch of a hand written letter. A text message, far, far less by comparison.

It began a wonderful chain of thought for me. The art of writing a letter.
Some of us may be old enough to remember the days of pen-pals as a kid and how exciting it was to run out to the post man with a letter from across the globe. Sadly, I must agree with my grandmother, it is an art that is being lost.

It was that conversation many years ago that started me thinking about writing and what motivates people to do it. More than that, all these years later, she still motivates me to write in a way that is true to me.

She says, a letter should be genuine, honest and authentic. 

Truer words were never spoken.


Take a look at the picture below. The people who made it had a message.
It was genuine, authentic and honest. Something we as writers should strive for in every word we commit to paper. It doesn't matter what you are writing, it should always come from the heart.
We have a legacy from those days to live up to. In my humble opinion, little has changed since cave walls regarding the reasons for writing. The innate need to understand and to be understood is at the essence of the unswerving motivation to write.
I think they have achieved it. In no small part their efforts to communicate through a written form has brought them nothing short of immortality. Their fist steps toward a truly non verbal form of language resonates to this day in the drive and motivations of writers.
We may not know their names, but the message to their descendants remains...

I am aware of my own existence. I am a part of this world. This will remain long after I am gone.








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Footnote:
Before anyone gets into a tizz about art being art and writing being writing...
I am fully aware that cave art is viewed as art and not writing. I wanted to explore the idea that cave art was indeed a precursor to writing. Without these first depictions, pictographic representations would not have evolved, and from there the first phonetic pictorial representations of objects, which led to the first "true" words. Thanks :)

April 10, 2013

Word count and Authors.

There are mountains of posts and articles about how many words you should be writing each day, such as:
"I've written 5000 words today", "I did this and I did that and it all totalled to 9,000 words!"
"You should be writing at least XYZ words a day"

Really?

Hmm, am I missing something here?!

My point of view is this;
  • The creative mind does not work the same way every day. Full stop.
  • The morning and the afternoon with bring different results when writing. Be aware of your best time of day to sit down and write.
  • Do you really need the extra pressure of achieving a word-count?
  • The process of writing a novel can entail an extended period of time. Allow that time to flow as it needs to. If you are forcing it out, it will show.
  • In other words, write when you are inspired to do so!
  • Is it more important to have a certain number of words on a page, or to have a great story to tell?

By all means, practice the craft.
I am not espousing that you can't set a goal for yourself and aim to achieve it. Some people simply work better doing it that way. But - it should not be the main focus of writing.
Personally I enjoy stepping away from my novels from time to time to write posts like this one, or to participate in a really great writing prompt. Some are really fun and it is a good exercise to hone writing skills.
However,
Don't become obsessed with word count over inspiration and quality.
Writing should be enjoyable, why heap the added stress on your shoulders over something that really doesn't matter!

I write because I have been hit by inspiration, not because I want to get X amount of words on paper!!
When I am "in the zone" the words fly out of my head and onto the paper. That is of primary concern to me. The number of words that happens to entail, is of little consequence.
My first novel, still in edit, came in at 108,000 words when I was finished...much will need to be cut to get into the golden zone of 100k words for a standard print run!

Sometimes I need the break! I need to step away from writing and let the story 'roll around my head' as I like to put it. Daydream a bit. Think about plot development, character interaction and where the novel is going. Talk to others about it too. Write it down when the time is right for you.

 So, there you go. My soap box rant for the day....

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April 08, 2013

My 'Very Inspiring Blogger Award!'



A fabulous friend of mine (name drop!) Author M.C. O'Neill has very kindly awarded me the 
Very Inspiring Blogger Award! It's very flattering and a big thank you to Mark!
You can find his blog at http://royalmanaball.wordpress.com/

In keeping with the rules, I must adhere to the following....
  1. Display the award logo on your blog.
  2. State SEVEN facts about yourself.
  3. Link back to the person who had already nominated you.
  4. Nominate FIFTEEN other bloggers who deserve this award.
  5. Notify each of the bloggers of your nomination.
So here goes.
  1. already done!
  2. Seven 'jack of all trades' facts about me... 
  • Between the ages of 10 & 12, I grew 1 foot taller! I've only grown 1 inch taller since then! (5'10")
  • I drowned when I was 2 years old.
  • I was at Ayres Rock a month before Azaria Chamberlain was taken by a dingo.
  • I joined the army reserve when I was 19. I got to play with cool things that go bang. In the end, it wasn't for me though.
  • Many, many years ago I was offered a place in the Sydney Philharmonia Choir.
  • I was scouted to model at 14 by a leading cosmetics brand. The contract was turned down so I could finish school....I still have moments of what if?
  • I enjoy 'discovering' and learning about anything that catches my interest, which usually means I'm juggling and tired!
 Um..(wake up?!) ...where were we? Oh, right...3...already done!

4. Nominations! Yay...
Here goes...

Lastly, all I have to do is notify everyone of their nomination too! Hope you enjoy perusing all of the wonderful guys and gals listed above! They each have an interesting perspective to offer on a range of topics.

For those of you who have received a nomination from me, enjoy...but don't feel obligated to participate if you don't want to, just know that I have enjoyed each and every one of your blog posts and your friendship!
For me this is all about continuing a wonderful friendship and as Seumas recently said: "paying it forward"
If you do decide to participate, I look forward to finding out seven tidbits about each of you! 
Let me know if you do :)

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